A Week Without Prayer Makes Us Crabs

Spring break is over and the kids and I are back in school, on the home-stretch to summer vacation. Yes! The break was nice and the rest well needed but during break, the kids and I became what we like to call ‘snappy crabs’–our definition for being crabby and grumpy.

And guess who was the biggest snappy crab? Me, of course! I could sense it over break but couldn’t seem to get any of us, especially me, out of our funk.

You know what was lacking over break? Looking back it is easy to pinpoint–we were lacking prayer. Those pinchers were out snapping because of one thing—no continual prayer. I didn’t wake up and start my day with my usual routine of prayer for my kids. I didn’t spend time at night with them in prayer or reading the Bible. Our dinners weren’t always together so there weren’t mealtime prayers. Yikes! We were out of zone and it showed!

I could blame the crabbiness on plenty of other things–late bedtimes, too much TV, not enough coffee. Those are all valid reasons in my book but I know in my heart the real reason was not enough prayer.

Prayer works. Spend a few days without it and you’ll find your step is out of sync. Next thing you know your husband’s on your last nerve, you’re picking out all his faults and he’s barely in the door from work. Those pinchers are out snapping now!

I know how hard it is to develop a prayer routine. And how much harder it is to maintain it. I feel your pain if you’re stumbling around trying to fit in prayer among the millions of others things you do every day.

I don’t have a magic prayer devotional that will change your prayer life in five easy steps. Or the next best book or study guide or website. I won’t even go on and on about journaling your prayers or waking up just five minutes earlier every day–haven’t we all heard it before, tried it before?

We all stumble with our prayer life. It happens. So when it does, start looking back. Start reflecting. Become a noticer of your life and the lives of those whom you love. How can the needs of those around you ignite you back into praying again? What do they need that only your prayers can answer? Has anything changed with you or them? Could the changes, the change in attitude, the change in behavior, the lack of love be because there’s a lack of prayer?

Don’t become hard on yourself and start feeling guilty. Just start noticing, start seeing with your heart what God is telling you needs prayers…maybe it’ s your family, your job, your friend, your attitude. Get back on your knees and lift up those prayers. Then watch for the change. Keep an eye out for it. It will happen, I guarantee it.

I put away my pinchers the other day and replaced them with folded hands. My heart is softening again towards my family. I heard giggles coming from my daughters’ shared bedroom and let me tell you, that’s definitely a miracle! Just last week I thought we might need to pull out the tape and split the room in half just to gain some sanity and now we’re laughing.

Prayer is necessary. I need it. My family and friends need me to do it for them.  I’m betting you and your loved ones need it too. So get started. No delays, no excuses. And once you start, sit back and prepare to be amazed.